Is it this difficult to point the finger at the sexual predator and abuser of presidential power? Don’t blame embolden the maniac by blaming the victim, although the victim appears to accept it. https://t.co/iSF2jLETRr
We must call out this crude behavior or else Duterte’s behavior becomes normative. It becomes accepted as normal behavior or conduct for men , and especially those in power . Let’s not blame the woman here in the way she acted. There is an imbalance of power. Senator Risa Hontiveras says “It was not a meeting of two consenting individuals on equal terms. Uneven power relations were clearly at play.” Between the woman and the president, who is in power? Beth Angsioco, explains:
THAT KISS (a thread)
It hurts to read tweets asking why the woman acted in the way she did. Some even outrightly blame her for agreeing to be kissed on the lips by the President.
I understand though.
We need to examine what happened within the context of power relations.
Duterte is supposed to be the President. He is supposed to act like one. He is the most powerful person in our country. “The woman is an Overseas Filipino Worker, married to a Korean. Beth adds “There exists a great imbalance of power between the two by virtue of sex and position.”
Nagmano ang babae kay Duts, this is an acknowledgment of the power differential.
The woman and her companion were seen leaving the stage but the President called her back and pointed to his lips , asking for a kiss. The crowd, went on frenzy obviously thrilled, and egging the woman to take the bait. The president even knew the woman is married. Beth added, “He was in full control of the situation, the woman was not.”
“He is the PRESIDENT. This alone instantly overwhelms people.
In ordinary situations, it’s not easy to say NO to a superior whether it’s a boss, teacher, even a husband. Equality between the sexes remains elusive. The power relation is aggravated by virtue of positions held.”
“How should the woman react? Even Sec. Romulo-Puyat & VP Leni were victimized by Duterte’s misogyny despite their being powerful women. The woman in question now is an ordinary OFW. Why blame her?
FULL BLAME IS ON THE PRESIDENT. He was in control. He played POWER OVER the woman.”
Inday Varona adds that it would be very difficult to stand your ground with a man whose lips are pursed already. This is “a man known for unleashing torrents of abuse at those who displease him — and on the other, a seemingly titillated audience.
We can fantasize about fending off the boor and stomping off but that is way easier said than done.
One of the things that struck me about the #MeToo campaign was how so many women feared being seen as killjoys, even malicious, how many feared being blamed for calling out abuse or even just showing it was not welcome.
Easy to be also disgusted by the audience. But one’s relationship w power is a complex issue. Sometimes what we see as enabling behavior can be, to others, a survival mechanism to preempt abuse. Doesn’t excuse the abuse.”
We must remember that Duterte’s latest tirade against women is part of an abusive pattern. He uses women as a diversionary tactic, when he faces issues like extrajudicial killings, human rights violations, high prices and the like.
Gabriela Rep. Arlene Brosas said, “It was really a shock but more than that is the message that conveys to women, grabe, it is as if he can do anything to women being the President he should be mindful of his position.” The President’s actions will filter down to the law enforcers, government agencies, and employees.
What a bad example to our youth, the future leaders of our country. Using the hashtag #BabaeAko, we will continue to use social media to fight President Rodrigo Duterte’s sexist and misogynistic behavior. And calling out goes beyond Duterte and this administration.
Noemi Lardizabal-Dado is a Content Strategist with over 16 years experience in blogging, content management, citizen advocacy and media literacy and over 26 years in web development. Otherwise known as @MomBlogger on social media, she believes in making a difference in the lives of her children by advocating social change for social good.
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Updated June 6, 2022